I discovered a great Reddit post that had a person wondering if they secretly enjoy suffering: “For some reason I feel like it’s really hard for me to let things go. I hold grudges, I take a very long time to feel better about things, I carry a lot of pain with me and have… continue reading.
I have often wondered why this massive glob of structured mush we call the brain often seems to want to ruin us instead of helping us be or stay happy. We can suffer from mental illnesses, such as depression, schizophrenia, bipolar disorder, Alzheimers, and many other illnesses. The brain is designed to keep you alive;… continue reading.
Have you ever truly successfully completed something you said that you “have to” do or that you “must get” done? If you did, how did you feel afterward? Accomplished, drained, miserable, happy? There is power in the words we use, and framing things with choice versus obligation can actually change how quickly we get something… continue reading.
What is enmeshment?
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If you ever felt so deeply entangled in someone else’s emotions, expectations or needs (especially when dealing with a narcissist) that you lost sight of your own self or felt that your identity was merged with the other person, you have experienced enmeshment. What is enmeshment? Enmeshment happens when your boundaries with another person, especially… continue reading.
“I don’t want to be embarrassed being seen with you.” Narcissists are the quintessential definition of insecurity. Yes, it may be difficult to believe, but below that intimidating, sometimes frightening, exterior that pleasantly shows confidence, light, and joy to everyone but you or your children, narcissists are essentially toddlers in adult bodies. The narcissistic tantrum… continue reading.
Our body and mind has an instinctive way of responding to stress, fear or danger in a way to protect us. Known as the 4 F’s, these are the fight, flight, freeze, and fawn response, and they can persist long after the threat has passed. The 4 F’s are deeply tied to the brain’s center… continue reading.
“Sitting with your emotions” means allowing yourself to fully experience and acknowledge your feelings without immediately trying to suppress, change, or escape them. It can be a painful, uncomfortable process that involves observing and accepting your emotions as they are, without judgment or resistance, and permitting yourself to feel whatever arises. If you are angry,… continue reading.
John couldn’t get himself out of bed. He stared at the wall; it was 6 AM, and he had to get up and get to work, but my god, could he not get himself up? He thought of everything he had to do before he even got out the door, the traffic to work, and… continue reading.
