Have you ever truly successfully completed something you said that you “have to” do or that you “must get” done? If you did, how did you feel afterward? Accomplished, drained, miserable, happy? There is power in the words we use, and framing things with choice versus obligation can actually change how quickly we get something… continue reading.
If you ever felt so deeply entangled in someone else’s emotions, expectations or needs (especially when dealing with a narcissist) that you lost sight of your own self or felt that your identity was merged with the other person, you have experienced enmeshment. What is enmeshment? Enmeshment happens when your boundaries with another person, especially… continue reading.
Have you ever felt completely drained after spending the day pretending to be “okay” even though you weren’t? What about if that’s what you have been doing the past day, week, month or even years? Without even realizing it, we often suppress our emotions in attempts to avoid conflict, protect others, or feeling that your… continue reading.
May it be filled with positive cognitive bias, joy, and pronoia!… continue reading.
The delulu is the solulu. Wouldn’t it be fun to believe that instead of the world is out trying to get you, you start to believe it’s actually secretly trying to help you? Meet pronoia, the opposite of paranoia. Job loss? Turns out, you got the last bit of severance pay before the company went… continue reading.
It’s easy to become obsessed and live in distressing thoughts, especially right around the new year. We start making New Year’s resolutions. We lie to ourselves that we are going to keep longer this year than last year. This is the year we change! We think we dismantle our old selves in hopes our “new”… continue reading.
“I don’t want to be embarrassed being seen with you.” Narcissists are the quintessential definition of insecurity. Yes, it may be difficult to believe, but below that intimidating, sometimes frightening, exterior that pleasantly shows confidence, light, and joy to everyone but you or your children, narcissists are essentially toddlers in adult bodies. The narcissistic tantrum… continue reading.
“Wrongs are not forgotten because they are not processed,” Gary Chapman, Anger: Taming a Powerful Emotion. Remembered anger is a wound that has not healed. It remains unresolved within the body and mind, subconsciously controlling us. When we recall anger from past events, regardless of how long it has been, the recollection suggests that the emotion was… continue reading.
